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    Friday Jan 21st Phyxios Mystique Munch

    http://fetlife.com/groups/2482/group_posts/1115099?utm_campaign=not...Phyxios Mystique in Richmond, Virginia would like to announce our upcoming munch on Friday, January 21st, 2011 to be held at Aunt Sarah's on Brook Road.

    This will be an open munch for the 21+ lifestyle community on Rt 1, south of Virginia Center Commons Mall.

    Location: Aunt Sarah's Pancake House
    9010 Brook Rd
    Glen Allen, VA 23060
    (804) 266-3177

    Date: Friday, January 21st, 2011
    Time: 6:30 p.m. til 8:30 p.m.
    Where: Look for us in the meeting room.

    We look forward to seeing you there. We do ask that if you plan on not having a meal please purchase a beverage.

    If you need to reach the Board concerning the munch, you can email us at: [Board Email](mailto:Board@phyxiosmystique.com)

    or via our voicemail at: 804-986-6111

    Phyxios Website

    Visit our FetLife Groups:
    Phyxios Announce
    Richmond Discussion
    Central Va Education

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    S.K.O.S.H. ROPE NIGHT JANUARY 19th, 2011

    http://fetlife.com/groups/5603/group_posts/1114420?utm_campaign=not..."Bringing people together one knot at a time-The ultimate bondage experience..."

    Come join us for a fun filled night...friends, bondage, suspension, rigging,
    predicament bondage, hog ties, body harnesses, show off your flair for rope, share your knowledge, learn from others that have a passion for tying or being tied, rope, rope and more rope! There is something for all to share in!!!

    Wednesday, January 19th, 2011 7:00 P.M. to 10:00 P.M.

    Do you enjoy the feeling of rope against your skin? Do you like to try to escape from bondage?

    Do You enjoy making someone else a piece of art or making them helpless through bondage?

    If you are a novice to rope or a well experienced bondage enthusiast this is the place for you, come tie, be tied, learn and have a good time.

    If you are interested in having a fun rope experience R.S.V.P. below and we will get you information on where the fun will be!

    R.S.V.P.

    S.K.O.S.H. rules and contact information will be sent out to those that have R.S.V.P.ed for the event.

    • Each person must R.S.V.P. for S.K.O.S.H. prior to its start. Please R.S.V.P. even if you are unsure if you will be attending for certain or not. If you wish not to R.S.V.P. on Fetlife for privacy reasons you may send MissM47 an email directly as another option.
    • If you will be bringing a guest please have them R.S.V.P. and send me (missm47) an email as well so we will know they will be attending as your guest.

    S.K.O.S.H. NOW PROUDLY SELLS GARR’S ROPE and RIGGING SUPPLIES…

    We are very thankful to Garr and Maria for their support and help by providing S.K.O.S.H. with rope and rigging supplies. They have offered their products to S.K.O.S.H. to sell at all S.K.O.S.H. events.

    A portion of the proceeds will help support S.K.O.S.H. events and venue.

    Garr’s Rope and rigging supplies can be purchased at every S.K.O.S.H. rope event at the same low price he always sells them for. His ropes are soft, strong, and durable, can be easily washed and are great for any kind of bondage including Shibari as well as suspension. The rope colors are amazing and come in any variety or combination.

    More details on these quality products can be found at GARRS - ROPES .COM or stop by the S.K.O.S.H. vending area. Purchasing your rope and rigging supplies at S.K.O.S.H. will help support the event and venue.

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    • Slave silks: The books clearly state that "white silk" and "red silk" is purely a reference to the slaves virginity (or lack thereof). "Yellow silk" and "grey silk" are two colors in common use to designate tavern slaves (particularly paga-taverns, yellow), and slaves owned by the state (grey). Use of these colors is purely at the discretion of the master; they are not some other-worldly martial-art style designation of a slaves training - those records (if any) are kept and transfered by owners/trainers.
    • Slave status: Being a slave on Gor (there are numerous references in the books, I'm not going to bother citing page references, if you doubt me, re-read) is not dependant on being owned. A slave whose master is slain remains a slave, simply an un-claimed slave, subject to claiming by anyone with the strength to do so. According to the books, the only legally accepted way for a slave to change that state of being is to be granted freedom by their owner. Before the Norman bibliophiles out there start typing, Tarl was released prior to being Bosk, and examine the plot again in Fighting Slave of Gor regarding a slave becoming a Free Woman.
    • Use of Gorean terms/titles: Home stones: I'm actually glad to see that very few people actually claim to have one, or even seen anothers; anything more is an entirely different post. Master/Mistress/kajira/kajiru/Free Person: All Free Persons are Master/Mistress, regardless of owning a slave. If you are not Free, you are slave - gender specific terms where applicable. Ubar/Ubara: Excepting in reference to within the confines of their own home - in his home every man is an Ubar - the titles use is almost impossible to translate to Earth use - are you a leader of a large region, mayor, governor? then you're not an Ubar. Jarl: "leader of men" are you in fact a leader?, complete with those that have sworn fealty to you? or are you an active leader in a group with structured rank - Captian of a ship, etc? then you are not a Jarl. *For clarity on this title: if you are head of a House, a Gorean version of a Leather Family, then yes, Jarl applies - unless you're the only member of course.
    • Gor vs BDSM: Before I begin on this, a quick geometry refresher: A rectangle, by definition, is not a square; but a square is a rectangle: Four sides? Yes. Opposite sides equal in length? Yes. Interior angles all 90 degrees? Yes. Difference being that a rectangle doesn't require all sides to be of equal length. Ergo, a square is a specific type of rectangle. Is BDSM Gorean? No, living BDSM does not imply an adherance to the concepts from Normans works. Is living Gorean BDSM?... Yes. Break it down before your fingers leap to the keys: BD/Bondage & Discipline - anyone that says a Gorean style Master/slave relationship doesn't know the terms "slave goad" or "slave chains." DS/Domination & submission - Does this actually need explaination to be seen as a "yes"? SM/Sadism & Masochism - here is the only murky distinction. Sadism implies deriving pleasure from anothers pain, if you consider yourself a master/mistress and don't own a flogger or crop or whip, then your answer here is "no" but I'm certain that no self-respect master is far from their 5-standed slave whip. Masochism is the same, for receiving of pain... if as a slave you don't get a warm feeling at the site of your master coming at you with an impliment of "training" then the answer is "no." If you answered "no" to the SM portion, then I feel you may need to seriously consider if you are Gorean. Reread the books, contemplate the natural order expressed in them - even the alpha male of a wolf pack will attack the female to remind her of her place. Is the Gorean lifestyle BDSM? Yes - a specific type. Just like a square is a specific rectangle.

     

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    Gor is NOT BDSM, nor is BDSM Gor. no matter how you want to put a spin on it

     

    A subbie enjoys the whip, as does the Dom who uses it on him or her. This is a SEXUAL enjoyment. A slave does NOT enjoy the whip, because it is not used to be pleasurable, it is used to train. As someone who IS a Master, and who IS a Gorean, I can tell you that I find nothing more distasteful than a slave who has gotten to the point of whip training. Infact, despite your posted thoughts, I don't even OWN a whip, or goad, or even a flogger. Infact, at this juncture in life, I don't even own a slave. And even when I did, I still didn't own the "toys" that some feel they require to dominate a slave. A Master, or even Mistress, doesn't really need those toys unless they enjoy playing with them. In the concept of "whip training", I find that I have lacked in properly training her to the point that the whip is necessary. This is the standard of using the whip, or slave goad, or other basically torture devices found within the book. Ever notice there isn't some slave setting there going "ohhhhh Master.. please, whip me again you big stud!" or references to her extreme enjoyment at having layers of flesh flayed away? No.. and you even so stated that point yourself. Thus, by it's very definition of Sadomasochist/ism, BDSM and Gor cannot be the same thing.

    BDSM - Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism. When will the BDSM crowd stop trying to lump Domination/Submission in there? It has been Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism for more than 4 DECADES, so in the last few years the over-zealous pompous fetish types don't get to start arbitrarily changing the rules on what BDSM really stands for. Now, I will grant you, to some extent, Domination and Submission DO come into play in BDSM.. into PLAY. However, for one to be Gorean, either Free or slave (unowned of course), there is no need for Domination or submission to actually BE a Gorean. By accounts of the texts, on Gor approximately 4% of the TOTAL population where slaves, in one form or the other. This being said, your summation of having to maintain ownership, or be owned, to be Gorean, would remove 96% of the entire population from your definition. I think you may want to rethink that one just a bit.. but I'll leave you with that to chew on...

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    Night At The Castle IV July 16th, 2011 Bloomington Indiana

    It's that time again!!!!!

    Lords, Ladies, servants and scribes!

    Night at the Castle IV is open for registration

    July 16, 2011 Bloomington, Indiana

    Must be 21 to attend

    VendorsDemonstrationsFull Buffet20+ play stationsSilent AuctionDoor Prizesmuch much more!

    Cost: Early Registration(until April 1, 2011) $15
    Standard Registration(April 2-June 15) $25
    Late Registration (June 16-July1) $35

    Scholarships are available

    For More Information, Email nightatthecastle@gmail.com
    To Register: http://www.eventbrite.com/event/1212443451

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    Our Next Free KINKDOM PARTY is January 29th...

    The basement is all ready to go, some new play stations have been added, It's cozy like a dungeon. Now we have the first level and full basement for play; doubling the space we had before. We think folks are gonna like it and, we are eager to share.

    After the holidays everyone tends to be short on cash. Great timing for a free party. For those 21 and older feel free to bring adult beverages if you wish. We'll have a very nice spread of food and munchies.

    An event link is at the bottom of this page, as before please RSVP individually, so we can do our best to ensure their is plenty of food & accommodations for all.

    Hours will be from 7pm-4am (possibly later) and there will be ample parking, along with parking security from open to close. For any women who might be arriving or leaving alone parking security will be watching out for you. If you ask them you can be walked to and from the door if it makes you feel more comfortable. Our building is on the edge of Mexican Town and is not only very safe but, pretty quiet too.

    Detroit has a stigma so, even though we likely don't require any security we'll still be providing it, so long as it makes people feel better.

    Jacob

    Event page at the link below:

    http://fetlife.com/events/39416

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    GRALE - My Bloody Valentine event!!!

    PLEASE NOTE: RSVPing on the GRALE website.

    MY BLOODY VALENTINE
    Presented by BuckyKatt

    PRESENTATION DETAILS:
    Roses are red
    The thorns feel good
    Drag them down my back
    Cover me with blood

    For this bloody Valentine’s Day, come see Bucky as he teaches us about needle play. Learn all kinds of fun tricks with needles, from mild to wild, basics to extreme, as he shows us how to have lots of bloody fun with these sharp and pointy play toys. He will teach you about the necessary supplies, how to properly set-up a scene, and how to prep and play with your ‘pin cushion’. This class is guaranteed to be filled with bloody fun. What better way to spend Valentine’s Day weekend than learning how to make the ones you love bleed.

    PESENTER BIO:
    Bucky is a deviant switch from the Chicago area. Although he’s been living the fetish life for decades, he only “officially” became part of the lifestyle within the past five years. Finding that traditional methods do not always fit within his scenes, he developed his own style for all kinds of play, preferring to follow the flow of energy with his partner and within the scene rather than doing what “The Book” says.

    Bucky has a degree in communications and has been presenting professionally for over a decade. His experience ensures that the audience will be entertained, stay engaged, and will walk away with an abundance of new and useful information. Enjoying the quest for knowledge and always concerned for safety in play, Bucky loves teaching his skills and sharing his ideas with others.

    EVENT DETAILS
    The event will start at 6pm with a potluck dinner (bring a dish to pass!), followed by the demo and play party.

    Make sure to get your RSVP in today (21+ only: ID's are checked at the door) – Cost is $5 for members and $15 for non members. You MUST be paid before the event: No money will be taken at the door.

    Become a member and save!!! A one year membership for GRALE is available for only $25!!!

    This event will take place on February 12, 2011 in Grand Rapids, Michigan – No additional location information can be given until registration has been completed. Because it is in a semi-public area, vanilla clothing must be worn until you are inside the building.

    Please feel free to post in the GRALE Fetlife Group or visit the GRALE Website if you have any questions – We will make sure we get the information and get back to you as soon as possible!

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    Feb. 5th Beat the winter blues at the Reformatory

    This is going to be a special party. Grab your friends, newbies and veterans to the lifestyle alike. Come warm up here at the Reformatory for a long night of kinky fun. Lets beat the winter blues with some hot spankings, some fire play, get the warm blood flowing from cuttings and piercings, and steamy encounters.

    This event is 100% potluck. We are going to analyze our menu by what people bring. We will put out the fixings for tacos. The cover for the party is 40 a cpl, 40 a single male, new single females please donate something if you wish. No memberships will be required or collected. Come on out and see the new improvements to the Reformatory, bring your towels for the hot tub, and have a great night. New guests are still required to call us at 1 734 934 8760.

    This is always a byob event. We sell no alcohol, but you must be over 21 to consume. All soft drinks are provided free of charge.

    Party starts at 8pm and ends on noon on Sunday. Please arrive by 10 and call in advance for overnight accommodations. To sign up, hit the link, [http://fetlife.com/events/39438]

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    Oakland County Munch -

    date: Friday, January 21, 2011
    time: 07:00 PM to 10:00 PM
    where: Liberty Bar
    address: 85 N. Saginaw  map
    cost: $0 - whatever you want to eat or drink
    dress code: public / casual with spice

    Description

    So - here we go slippin' and slidin' into 2011. Lets keep the love flowing this Friday, the 21st. All the info is here - mark it on your calendar. If you're thinking of coming to your first munch, this would be a great time. We are (usually) right inside the front door; just ask for Bill. You can order a delicious dinner from Jose' or just have a drink. Most important is that you come on out and join the conversations. This munch repeats every third Friday of the month. YES - I will have chocolate!

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    Munch -N- Bowl

    “Bowling Munch”

    General info

    date: Monday, February 21, 2011
    time: 07:00 PM to 11:00 PM
    where: Fairlanes Bowl
    address: 29600 Stephenson Hwy., Madison Heights, MI 48071  map
    cost: $9.00 per person (shoes included).
    dress code: vanilla

    Description

    Come join us, get active and meet your fellow kinksters or hang out with your kinky friends at a once monthly bowling munch. No commitments necessary, simply drop in when you want or come every month. Whether you're an experienced bowler or just learning, it should be a great time. This munch will take place on the third Monday of each month. Please show up a little early so we can get everyone settled in to bowl at 7:00pm.

    Look for the three black balloons at the end of the alley.

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    January 2011 Game & Gab

    “Polyamory, Boardgames, and bland Midwest food. Good times!”

    General info

    date: Saturday, January 29, 2011
    time: 11:00 AM to 03:00 PM
    where: Denny's Plymouth
    address: 39550 Ann Arbor Rd., Plymouth, MI, 48170  map
    cost: Buy something off the menu
    dress code: Street clothes

    Description

    What: Game & Gab, social game party for the Polyamory community and friends

    Where: Denny's restaurant, 39550 Ann Arbor Rd., Plymouth, MI, 48170

    When: January 29th, 11am to 3pm

    Why: It can be nice playing games and eating with people who share an interest with you.

    How: Bring a game you'd like to play, of the board/card/table variety. Be friendly. Order something (or split my fries!). Be excellent to each other!

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    Beautiful Week-End At Paddles on Jan. 21st & 22nd...

    Fri. Jan. 21st- DSFs Meeting and Demo. Doors open at 7:30pm to 9:30. Paddles All Out BDSM Play Party- 9:30 to 3am Come Join the fun and be "PART OF THE PADDLES HISTORY".


    Sat. Night Play Party 10pm to 3am.

    This is the 1st of many "ROLL BACK THE PRICES" Sat. Party.- Tell our Little DLB at the door that she is Beautiful and Men Get in for $25-Women $5...

    Tell your friends On-Line and Join The Fun.

    Paddlesnyc.com 250 w 26st NYC Between 7th & 8th ave. Parking Lot Side Door.

    Paddles "The Longest Running BDSM Club in the World"...

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    The Downriver Club Presents ++Mummification Class++ Presented by Fetvest

    “Wrap or be wrapped!”

    General info

    date: Sunday, January 23, 2011
    time: 04:00 PM to 10:00 PM
    where: Location to be sent out with invitation
    cost: $10.00
    dress code: vanilla on the street/as you wish when you enter

    Description

    Bio: He’s Fetvest on line, Bill to his friends, Sir Bill to some and teacher to others. As a Dominant Switch, he has been an enthusiastic member of several Metro Detroit BDSM/Fetish Alternative Lifestyle groups. He is the host of the Oakland County Munch and can often be found helping out as a DM at local parties. Bill is also known to pervert all sorts of things into unique toys and play furniture. He is a Fetish Fashion enthusiast and sensualist, always welcoming the opportunity to exchange ideas with others.

    Class Description: As a follow up to "Plastic Wrap - The Science & the Sensual" - Join Bill for his Skill Share presentation "MORE Plastic Wrap!" If you've ever wondered what it would be like to be wrapped, restrained or mummified, this is your opportunity. With less talkin' and more wrappin', Bill will briefly cover safety concerns, purpose and methods and then open the floor to questions and interactive participation. He will bring one of his favorite pieces of equipment which will accommodate several different types of wrap scenes including the "Jello Shot". He says that he's also been working on something new that should be ready for this presentation. Can't wait! Feel free to bring some plastic wrap with you but there will be plenty on hand with a huge selection of colors available for play.

    Class is 4:00pm to 7:00pm please be there early! Doors will close at 4:00pm and you will have to call for entry after that time.

  • Dept of PMM Artists & things

    Exhibitionism is the recurrent urge or behavior to expose one's genitals to an unsuspecting person 

    Voyeurism is the recurrent urge or behavior to observe an unsuspecting person who is naked, disrobing or engaging in sexual activities. 

    Masochism is the recurrent urge or behavior of wanting to be humiliated, beaten, bound, or otherwise made to suffer. 

    Sadism is the recurrent urge or behavior involving acts in which the pain or humiliation of the victim is sexually exciting. 

    Fetishism is the use of non-sexual or nonliving objects or part of a person's body to gain sexual excitement. 

    Transvestic fetishism is a sexual attraction towards the clothing of the opposite gender. 

    Pedophilia is the sexual attraction to prepubescent children. 

    Frotteurism is the recurrent urges or behavior of touching or rubbing against a nonconsenting person. 

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    Last Friday of the Month - munch

    “where coffee and kink meet ...”
    date: Friday, January 28, 2011
    time: 07:00 PM to 10:00 PM
    where: Biggby Coffee
    address: 8771 Hall Rd. Utica 48317  map
    cost: $0 - whatever coffee you want
    dress code: public / casual

    Description

    This Friday (1/28) is the Last Friday of January already. After a busy day shoveling snow - Take a Break! Have some great coffee and great conversation with some of your best, and future best, kinky friends. Biggby Coffee is the place to be - on the north side of Hall Road (M-59) just east of Van Dyke (same plaza as the Utica Post Office). 7pm - 10pm, its OK to be late, just show up! Thru the front door and to your right then left, in our own comfortable, freestyle, space. And there's usually a group that continues to munch at a close by restaurant if you still need dinner. See y'all there.

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    NYC Munch: this Fri, February 4th (note new time)

    PLEASE NOTE THE NEW TIME FOR OUR MUNCH (starting 6 PM now-instead of 7 PM)

     

    We are a BDSM munch group that meets every "FIRST" Friday of the Month in NYC

    Next Date: this Friday, February 4th
    Time: 6 PM - 7:30 PM
    Venue: "The Moonstruck Dinner" #400 West 23rd Street, NYC, NY, (corner 9th Ave)
    (we will be in the back of the restaurant).

    Fetlife link: http://fetlife.com/events/36871

    If for any reason you cannot make this munch, our future "Munches" will be on the following Friday dates:
    March 4th, April 1st, May 6th, June 3rd, July 1st, August 5th, September 2nd, October 7th, November 4th, and December 3rd.

    Our web page is located at:
    http://groups.yahoo.com/group/NYCmunch

    *What is a munch?
    A munch is a low-pressure social gathering for people involved in or interested in BD SM. A munch is usually held in a restaurant.

    Who can attend?:
    If you are minimum 18 years old, please join us and be among kindred spirits. We welcome all at this Munch. For those who are new or curious, this is a perfect way to get introduced to the lifestyle in a friendly environment.

    *Who is a typical person who attends these munches?
    Regular everyday males and females, who happen to share an interest in the Dominant and Submissive Lifestyle. Our ratio of males to females is usually 50-50.

    *How to dress to The Munch?
    We would appreciate that you dress with the knowledge that this is a vanilla restaurant. We do not want to bring attention to ourselves nor the establishment from other patrons. That means dress as casual as possible. Most people come directly from work, so they are already casually dressed or in their work clothes.

    What happens after the Munch is finished?
    Most will usually attend the DSF meeting that take place on Fridays at Paddles, which is only 3 blocks away from the Moonstruck Dinner.

    This week's bondage demo at Paddles with Gentleman Joker can be found at: http://fetlife.com/events/39634

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    M/s Chat in February... note the day of meeting has changed
    We are mixing up the day that we are holding the M/s chat this month. We are meeting this month on Sunday afternoon this time. We have had a lot of feedback of people who are interested in attending the chat but can't due to work or other obligations so we wanted to mix it up just a bit.

    Come out and join your peers for an afternoon chat centered around TPE (Total Power Exchange) relationships. We welcome all to this event regardless of your current relationship status. Have questions? Wonder how to react to something in your relationship? Have an idea you would like to bounce off of others and get some feedback? These chats are an open discussion an all are encouraged and welcome to participate.

    This months M/s Chat will be held at :
    Caribou Coffee
    29990 Detroit Road
    Westlake, OH 44145

    When: Sunday afternoon Feb 13th
    Time: 3pm - 5pm

    Event:
    http://fetlife.com/events/41508

    See you there!!

    Master Eric & slave amber

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    OhioSMART-TNG February Bowling!

    We're going bowling again! It was a rousing success last time, and I'm excited to say that we're headed back! Two hours of bowling, shoes, pizza, and soda are all included! Price is gonna be approximately $10/person, and please bring cash to pay for your spot!

    We'll need a head count to guarantee prices, so please RSVP to tng@ohiosmart.org to save your spot and get the specifics on the location!

    Keep in mind, all TNG events are geared towards the 19-35 age group and their partners. If you don't fall within that age range or have an attending partner that would, we'll have to see you at a different event.

    If you have any questions, please email us at tng@ohiosmart.org and we'll be happy to help!

    Date: February 13, 2011
    Time: 3 to 5 PM

    http://fetlife.com/events/41502
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    Capital Ladies Brunch, February 12

    The Capital Ladies Brunch is under the auspices of MAsT DC Pan. The purpose of the brunch is to form a group to socialize, discuss successes and challenges in the M/s lifestyle, and form a bond with other ladies who are active or interested in the M/s community.

    The February brunch is scheduled for Saturday, February 12, at 11:30 AM.

    If you are interested in attending, please respond to the event page!

    http://fetlife.com/events/41682
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    Tuesday Swinger - 911 Night - Feb 22 (Toronto)

     

    Join me every Tuesday night in February at Club M4 where you can get your freak on at a Night of Fyre with Fyre Starter & her Firefighter!

    For more info, visit my website at www.fyrestarterxxx.com or www.clubm4.com

    Club M4
    2814 Lake Shore Blvd. West, Toronto
    Toronto's ONLY single MEN friendly Swingers Club!
    #1 Swingers Dating Site www.menageaquatre.com

    February Event Dates have been set!!

    Tues. Feb. 8 - Leather, Lace & Lingerie
    Tues. Feb. 15 Cupid Strikes the Singles
    Tues. Feb. 22 911 Night

     

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    Dirty Show after Party. Feb 12th/13 2011

     

    RSVP and Details here. http://fetlife.com/events/41612

    Detroit’s original Goddess of Temptation and Torture is planning a special after party for the Dirty Show on February 12th. This more intimate venue will feature a shower the size of a small room for water-sports, a blackout room where no naughtiness can be seen by no one, and a large Jacuzzi for those who want to clean up after they get really nasty! In an environment that evokes eroticism, Castratta will be offering her guests a viewing of ventures that are even too vile for the Dirty Show. This will not be an event for the tame or timid, for Lady Pain is renowned for her spectacles of shock and awe.

    Thank you All and hope to see you at the Dirty Show!

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    Euchre Party for February!

     

    It's that time again! The monthly Waterford Kinksters Euchre Party will be on Wednesday, February 9th.

    The event listing is here.

    Look forward to seeing you there!

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    February's Ann Arbor Polyamory Network munch falls on Friday, February 11th. We're having it at Aubree's Pizzeria & Tavern in Ypsilanti.

    Please RSVP for this munch here so we can get a head count, and have enough space for everyone!

    Aubree's is located at 2122 Whittaker Road, Ypsilanti, MI.

    Come out, visit/meet/socialize with local poly folk, and have some great food. We are a very friendly, welcoming group and would love to have you out!

    Feel free to message me or post here if you have any questions.

    Hope to see everyone there! :)

    If you don't belong to the Ann Arbor Polyamory Network group here on fetlife, or the yahoo group feel free to join! Subscribing to both/either keeps you current with discussions and future events!

    Follow the Ann Arbor Polyamory Network twitter page and get event updates sent right to your phone or email!
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    OTK Spanking Valentine Party Sat 2/12
    Red hearts and Red Ckeeks all around.
    The 1st 50 women get a Valentine Heart Filled with Chocolate!!!
    OTK Spanking Party from 7pm to 10pm... Hand/paddle/hairbrush/woodenspoon/and canes are a flying...
    Valentine BDSM Play Party 10pm to 3am... All out BDSM Play

    Fri, feb.11th DSFs Play Party 9pm to 3am
    Paddles, The Longest running BDSM Club in the World.
    Come be part of the History
    paddlesnyc.com 250w26st NYC Between 7th & 8th ave Parking lot Side Door.
    Come It's Fun!!!
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    Hi everyone,

    Just a reminder that the dinner munch will be held this Sunday at Cafe Baci.

    Please RSVP to sarasotasociety@yahoo.com if you plan on attending so that we can have the appropriate number seats and servers planned with the restaurant.

    Hope to see you there!
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    This Sunday February 13th @ 3pm we are getting together for out monthly round-table M/s chat. We will be there rain or shine.... or more like sleet or snow this time of year. Why not come out and join us for some coffee or tea and spend a couple hours with some like minded friends? We will be discussing topics related directly to TPE relationships and welcome all regardless of current relationship status. All we ask is that you have a desire to share your experiences and or questions you may have... we all learn from each other.

    Here is the event:
    http://fetlife.com/events/41508

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    The next NYC Kinky Living (NYCKL) group "meet & greet" is on Sunday, March 6! Please rsvp here.

    We'll be meeting at the nice bar HIGHLANDS in the Village from 5:30PM-8PM (cash bar). They do have a nice menu also available for anyone wishing to grab a bite to eat, as well as happy hour specials.

    Should you be attending the MAsT meeting earlier in the afternoon, we'll be just a block away from there so please stop by afterwards!

    Just ask for the NYCKL ("nickel") group if you don't see us.

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    Saturday February 12th SMACK Munch

    It's already munch time again!

    Here is your reminder, munch is this Saturday February 12th at 6pm. We're meeting at Denny's Restaurant on Airport Rd. in Jackson.

    Come on out and join us this weekend, introduce yourself and get to know the local kinksters. This is a casual munch, so that people can come and simply get to know each other and just have a good time.

    Please feel free to email with any questions, or just to get to know someone a little bit before arriving.

    You can rsvp if you'd like here http://fetlife.com/events/40803
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    Valentine's Day Singles Munch
    “Share the day”
    General info
    date: Monday, February 14, 2011
    time: 06:00 PM to 09:00 PM
    where: Kerby's Koney Island
    address: 6004 East 12 Mile, Warren, M I 48092 - just East of Mound Road, South side of the street map
    cost: Just pay for what you order
    dress code: Casual street attire.

    Description

    No need to be alone. Unattached kinksters - come make new friends, open new doors. Order from the regular menu and enjoy the ambience in our own private room.
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    Good Morning,

    We are having a singles meet up and discussion on Saturday at DetroitSpace. I was looking to those who are seeking for suggestions on how to make this fun and informative.

    One suggestion was speed dating. Another was to bring a few copies of the bdsm checklist to discuss and use.

    So please any suggestions?

    thank you,
    tala

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    Win a pair of tickets to Kinko de Mayo

    You asked, We did it! Kinko de Mayo Raffle Tickets are here!

    But you must act fast because we are only offering the raffle tickets in February. The drawing will be midnight at the playparty on February 26th.

    One person will win a pair of tickets to the big event in Cleveland in May on May 6-8. More information about the event is available at kinkodemayo.com

    Raffle tickets are one for $10 or 5 for $25.

    If you want to drop by the space to snag a ticket without staying for the events, just call the Rose phone.

    Big thanks to SMART for sponsoring the 2011 raffle.
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    Sore about Valentine's Day? You will be! Join hosts Mistress Reina and Reina's slave (of NYC TNG) as they kick this holiday square in the nuts!

    The party starts at 10PM this Saturday, February 19th at Paddles!

    PARTY EVENT PAGE

    TES NOVICE EXCURSION EVENT PAGE

    NYC TNG MEETING/PARTY NIGHT EVENT PAGE

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    The Michigan weather seems to be giving us a break this week, come out and meet us at your friendly local munch!

    Join us at Brann's at 4157 Division Ave S. Grand Rapids 49548 at 6:30 until 10:30 for your friendly monthly munch.

    Dress code is enforced. Please dress for a family establishment, or at least cover yourself when going through the main part of the restaurant.

    When entering, ask the hostess for the Munch group or the GGRM, or go straight through the main room to the private rooms to the right.

    If it's your first munch and you'd like to meet someone before hand, either contact myself or aharlotskismet or Saraphina_Elaine and we are more than happy to meet you before the munch starts.

    Hope to see you there!

    Directions are at this link:

    Brann's Directions

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    Come join us Monday, February 21st for a fun evening with your fellow kinksters. It's a very relaxed atmosphere, whether you bowl or just come to socialize. Centrally located in Detroit metro close to I-75 and 696. Details at Munch -N- Bowl
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    March Findlay Breakfast Munch!

    The Findlay Munch group is gathering once again! We will be getting together for a breakfast buffet on Saturday, March 19th! Please come on out and join us! :)

    If you are not a member of the Findlay Munch group and are interested in future goings on, please join here: http://fetlife.com/groups/10664

    You can find details on the event here: http://fetlife.com/events/43592 Please RSVP and let us know if you're coming! :) Can't wait to see you all!

    'Til then...keep warm!
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    UNDERWORLD Industrial Fetish Event
    Every 4th Friday of the Month @ KADAN 4696 30th St. SanDiego, CA 92116

    FREE Entry FREE Musik Full Bar 9pm-2am
    DJ's > Latex69,Pet M1,Severin

    Perfromace by
    Miss Ivy Thornton
    SirLars
    BetsyGraves

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    It's that time again! The monthly Waterford Kinksters Euchre Party will be on Wednesday, March 9th.

    The event listing is here.

    Look forward to seeing you there!

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    Whipping Wonderland

    slave bells ring, are you listening?
    Through the pain, their eyes are glistening.
    A beautiful sight, W/we're happy tonight
    Walking in a whipping wonderland...

    Gone away is their freedom, Here to stay is their service
    You hear a good song, You're whip is quite long,
    Walking in a whipping wonderland...

    In the dungeon you will see a chained man,
    And you know he needs a beating down
    You'll say "are you ready"
    he'll say "yes Ma'am"
    So, you'll grab your whip and go to town

    Later on, You'll perspire
    As You set her ass on fire,
    That sound ya heard
    Was not a safeword
    Walking in a whipping wonderland

    In the dungeon you will see a chained man,
    And you know he needs a beating down
    You'll say "are you ready"
    he'll say "yes Ma'am"
    So, you'll grab your whip
    And go to town

    Hear their screams, Aren't they thrilling
    In your ears they are filling
    W/we'll frolic and play,
    The S&M way,
    Walking in a whipping wonderland.

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    ~~~~~T'was the Night of Wicked~~~~~~~~~~~

    Twas the night of Wicked, and all through the Hall,

    The slaves did scream..as their Doms had a ball

    The Weights were clamped, to my nipples with care,

    In hopes that my Goddess, soon would be there.

    Submissives and Slaves, were chained to their Cross

    Anticipating Pain, applied by their Boss.

    Dressed all in black, with body hair snipped,

    i awaited my Goddess, prepared to be whipped.

    From over by the entry, there arose such a clatter,

    i sprang from my knees, to see what was the matter.

    And there in the doorway, confident and bold,

    Stood my Sexy Goddess, a sight to behold.

    With boots of black leather, and brandishing a whip,

    She pointed at me, then at the Lash on Her hip.

    i pulled off Her boots, then stripped off my clothes,

    Then kneeled before Her, and kissed all Her toes.

    She led me by my Collar, to a cross by the wall,

    As i carried her toybag, She’d soon use them all.

    She shackled my wrists, and my ankles real tight,

    With a gleam in Her eye, my heart filled with fright.

    She beat me with floggers, with canes and a staff,

    i begged her for mercy, but She’d only laugh.

    Then into my mouth, She placed a ball-gag,

    And a mean looking paddle, was pulled from Her bag.

    She then spanked me hard, and did it with glee,

    The pain grew intense, and over-whelmed me.

    i uttered a word, then She spoke to me too…

    “motherfucker’s” not a safeword, No mercy for you.

    She beat me for hours, drew knives across my skin,

    i started to realize, the trouble i was in.

    She pulled out some rope, and tied up my cock.

    Then around my scrotum, weighted down with a rock.

    The Agony increased, as She squeezed on my Balls,

    my screams did echo, off the floor and the walls.

    At a quarter to One, did the pain finally stop,

    Off came the shackles, to the floor i did drop.

    i crawled to my Goddess, my body bruised and stung,

    i then cleaned her boots, using only my tongue.

    Then back on my knees, i cleaned all Her toys,

    How lucky i was, to be one of Her boys!

    Her toybag then packed, all neat as can be,

    She then stroked my hair, and smiled down at me.

    Humbly i begged, to serve Her again.

    i swore my devotion, and love without end

    my heart now belonged, to my Goddess alone,

    So She said this to me, in her Dominant tone

    “Fear not, little slave…you’ll soon get your wishes,”

    “for My house needs cleaning, and so do My dishes”

    “you will rub on My back, and on My feet as well,”

    “if you don’t do it right, I will make your life hell.”

    “you’ll serve only Me, and give Me your trust”

    “if you wish to wear My Collar, then do it, you must!!!”

    “to become My slave, if you pass all My tests,”

    “you’ll never regret it, for I am The Best!!!”

    Then i heard Her exclaim as She moved out of sight,

    “Seasons beatings to all, and to all a Wicked night”

    Merry Christmas to All!!!

    by Silent-next2You

  • miyoko canter

    love the christmas twists on the stories.

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    Reminder from:   sarasotasociety Yahoo! Group
     
    Title:   Sarasota Society Play Party
     
    Date:   Saturday March 17, 2012
    Time:   9:00 pm - 3:00 am
    Repeats:   This event repeats every month on the third Saturday.
    Location:   Near Sarasota and Manatee County
    Notes:   You cannot attend the party without an RSVP to sarasotasociety@yahoo.com
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    Hi everyone
    We are changing the date of the dinner munch because it will fall on Easter in April, and Mother's Day in May.
    We are moving the Munch to the First Sunday of the month
    which will be April 1 and May 6. For those of you who are planning to attend

    The parties will remain the same on the third Saturday as regularly scheduled.

    Our dinner munch will be held on Sunday, April 1 at 6:30 PM at Cafe Baci, an

    Italian Restaurant that specializes in Northern Italian Cuisine. The address is

    4001 S. Tamiami Trail, Sarasota, FL

    If you need directions you can go to MapQuest and type in your address and get

    door to door directions.

    Pricing is moderate and you will find that there are items to fit everyone's

    appetite and budget on the menu.

    Dinner starts at 6:30 and goes until whenever we get done! Ask for the "computer

    group" to be taken to our private room to be seated.

    Since this is a family restaurant, we ask that you dress appropriately and leave

    any fetish clothing or play toys at home and keep "lifestyle" talk to a minimum

    when the server is in the room. We are known to the restaurant as "the computer

    group".

    Since we need to plan seating with the restaurant, even though we are in a

    private room, we ask that you RSVP to sarasotasociety@yahoo.com so that the

    restaurant can provide us with the proper amount of servers, in a room that is

    large enough to accommodate us. Please be courteous and if you plan on attending

    please RSVP, and if you have RSVP'd, please let us know if you can't make it.

    RSVP to sarasotasociety@yahoo.com

    Please feel free to write if you have any questions

    Rigger

  • Rev. Allen M. Drago ~ Traveler

    Reminder from:   sarasotasociety Yahoo! Group
     
    Title:   Sarasota Society Play Party
     
    Date:   Saturday May 12, 2012
    Time:   9:00 pm - 3:00 am
    Repeats:   This event repeats every month on the second Saturday.
    Next reminder:   The next reminder for this event will be sent in 7 days, 4 minutes.
    Location:   Near Sarasota and Manatee County
    Notes:   You cannot attend the party without an RSVP to sarasotasociety@yahoo.com
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    Reminder from:   sarasotasociety Yahoo! Group
     
    Title:   Munch
     
    Date:   Sunday May 6, 2012
    Time:   6:30 pm - 9:30 pm
    Repeats:   This event repeats every month on the first Sunday.
    Next reminder:   The next reminder for this event will be sent in 4 days, 18 hours, 4 minutes.
    Location:   Cafe Baci, 4001 S Tamiami Trail, Sarasota, Fl 34231 Phone 941 921 7944
    Notes:   RSVP to SarasotaSociety@yahoo.com to plan for seating
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    Labor Day Libertine - August 31-Sept 3 French Lick, IN

    A mix of Kink and spiritual hedonism oriented frivolity @ Our Haven, near French Lick Indiana

    This is an 18 an over only event

    Join us for a fun filled 4 day weekend of leather, learning and liberty while camping! Demonstrations and Workshops each day! Big bonfire with dancing and drumming each night! Bring your rhythmic goodies and lets dance and drum till dawn!

    Come get your kink on at Pan's Ball!
    Celebrate the joys of love lust and freedom under the stars and around a bonfire!
    Dress to show off your Favorite Fetish or as sexy a you desire!
    Event is Clothing Optional. If you choose not to wear anything, please carry a towel to sit on.

    Multiple play spaces usable each day! Bring your own equipment and toys, there is plenty of room to set up!

    At Gate: $70
    Day Pass $20

    Vending is free!

    dress: Fetish or whatever you want as well as Clothing optional

    http://ldl.tribussolvo.org/

    http://registration.ourhaven.info/product_info.php?…

    https://fetlife.com/events/93694/v2

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    Sarasota Society Dinner MunchOur dinner munch will be held on Sunday, August 12, 2012 at 6:30 PM at Cafe Baci,
    an Italian Restaurant that specializes in Northern Italian Cuisine.

    The address is
    4001 S. Tamiami Trail, Sarasota, FL

    If you need directions you can go to Mapquest and type in your address and get
    door to door directions.

    Pricing is moderate and you will find that there are items to fit everyone's
    appetite and budget on the menu.

    Dinner starts at 6:30 and goes until whenever we get done! Ask for the "computer
    group" to be taken to our private room to be seated.

    Since this is a family restaurant, we ask that you dress appropriately and leave
    any fetish clothing or play toys at home and keep "lifestyle" talk to a minimum
    when the server is in the room. We are known to the restaurant as "the computer
    group".

    Since we need to plan seating with the restaurant, even though we are in a
    private room, we ask that you RSVP to sarasotasociety@yahoo.com so that the
    restaurant can provide us with the proper amount of servers, in a room that is
    large enough to accommodate us. Please be courteous and if you plan on attending
    please RSVP, and if you have RSVP'd, please let us know if you can't make it.

    RSVP to sarasotasociety@yahoo.com

    Please feel free to write if you have any questions Sunday August 12, 2012 at Cafe Baci‏

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    Our dinner munch will be held on Sunday, January 13, 2013 at 6:30 PM at Cafe Baci,
    an Italian Restaurant that specializes in Northern Italian Cuisine.

    The address is
    4001 S. Tamiami Trail, Sarasota, FL

    If you need directions you can go to Mapquest and type in your address and get
    door to door directions.

    Pricing is moderate and you will find that there are items to fit everyone's
    appetite and budget on the menu.

    Dinner starts at 6:30 and goes until whenever we get done! Ask for the "computer
    group" to be taken to our private room to be seated.

    Since this is a family restaurant, we ask that you dress appropriately and leave
    any fetish clothing or play toys at home and keep "lifestyle" talk to a minimum
    when the server is in the room. We are known to the restaurant as "the computer
    group".

    Since we need to plan seating with the restaurant, even though we are in a
    private room, we ask that you RSVP to sarasotasociety@yahoo.com so that the
    restaurant can provide us with the proper amount of servers, in a room that is
    large enough to accommodate us. Please be courteous and if you plan on attending
    please RSVP, and if you have RSVP'd, please let us know if you can't make it.

    RSVP to sarasotasociety@yahoo.com

    Please feel free to write if you have any questions
    Sir Rigger

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    Our dinner munch will be held on Sunday, February 10, 2013 at 6:30 PM
    at Cafe Baci, an Italian Restaurant that specializes in Northern Italian Cuisine
    .

    The address is
    4001 S. Tamiami Trail, Sarasota, FL

    If you need directions you can go to Mapquest and type in your address and get
    door to door directions.

    Pricing is moderate and you will find that there are items to fit everyone's
    appetite and budget on the menu.

    Dinner starts at 6:30 and goes until whenever we get done! Ask for the "computer
    group" to be taken to our private room to be seated.

    Since this is a family restaurant, we ask that you dress appropriately and leave
    any fetish clothing or play toys at home and keep "lifestyle" talk to a minimum
    when the server is in the room. We are known to the restaurant as "the computer
    group".

    Since we need to plan seating with the restaurant, even though we are in a
    private room, we ask that you RSVP to
    sarasotasociety@yahoo.com so that the
    restaurant can provide us with the proper amount of servers, in a room that is
    large enough to accommodate us. Please be courteous and if you plan on attending
    please RSVP, and if you have RSVP'd, please let us know if you can't make it.

    RSVP to
    sarasotasociety@yahoo.com

    Please feel free to write if you have any questions
    Sir Rigger

  • Dept of PMM Artists & things

    Our dinner munch will be held on Sunday, March 10, 2013 at 6:30 PM
    at Cafe Baci, an Italian Restaurant that specializes in Northern Italian Cuisine.

    The address is
    4001 S. Tamiami Trail, Sarasota, FL

    If you need directions you can go to Mapquest and type in your address and get
    door to door directions.

    Pricing is moderate and you will find that there are items to fit everyone's
    appetite and budget on the menu.

    Dinner starts at 6:30 and goes until whenever we get done! Ask for the "computer
    group" to be taken to our private room to be seated.

    Since this is a family restaurant, we ask that you dress appropriately and leave
    any fetish clothing or play toys at home and keep "lifestyle" talk to a minimum
    when the server is in the room. We are known to the restaurant as "the computer
    group".

    Since we need to plan seating with the restaurant, even though we are in a
    private room, we ask that you RSVP to sarasotasociety@yahoo.com so that the
    restaurant can provide us with the proper amount of servers, in a room that is
    large enough to accommodate us. Please be courteous and if you plan on attending
    please RSVP, and if you have RSVP'd, please let us know if you can't make it.

    RSVP to sarasotasociety@yahoo.com

    Please feel free to write if you have any questions
    Sir Rigger

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    Our dinner munch will be held on Sunday, January 12,2014 at 6:30 PM at Cafe Baci, an Italian Restaurant that specializes in Northern Italian Cuisine.

    The address is
    4001 S. Tamiami Trail, Sarasota, FL

    If you need directions you can go to Google Maps and type in your address and get
    door to door directions.

    Pricing is moderate and you will find that there are items to fit everyone's
    appetite and budget on the menu.

    Dinner starts at 6:30 and goes until whenever we get done! Ask for the "computer
    group" to be taken to our private room to be seated.

    Since this is a family restaurant, we ask that you dress appropriately and leave
    any fetish clothing or play toys at home and keep "lifestyle" talk to a minimum
    when the server is in the room. We are known to the restaurant as "the computer
    group".

    Since we need to plan seating with the restaurant, even though we are in a
    private room, we ask that you RSVP to
    sarasotasociety@yahoo.com so that the
    restaurant can provide us with the proper amount of servers, in a room that is
    large enough to accommodate us. Please be courteous and if you plan on attending
    please RSVP, and if you have RSVP'd, please let us know if you can't make it.

    RSVP to
    sarasotasociety@yahoo.com

    Please feel free to write if you have any questions
    Sir Rigger